I'm a blogger. There, I said it.
But do my mindless ramblings every few months really qualify me as a blogger? Whose idea was it to blog? Isn't it kind of like sharing your journal/diary with the world wide web? I think that maybe when I have kids I'll blog more... you think? Or maybe I won't, because I'll have even less time! Or not, depends on if I'm working after we start a family...
I always thought I would be a stay-at-home mom like my own Mom was. My mom is a great mom, and I really appreciated the time we spent together when I was growing up. She was always home when I got off the bus, she was there at school to volunteer, she took me to practices and friends houses... it was great!! I think that maybe she's even the reason that tulips are my favorite flower. When I was in sixth grade, my school changed to year-round and we were on a "track" system. I would go to school for 9 weeks, then had 3 weeks off. (Summer break could be longer than that depending on what track you were on... I was on B track). Anyway, on my fall break in October, mom and I planted tulips together. We didn't tell anyone else in the family, it was our little secret until Spring time. So when I started to see the tulips peek through the ground, I was so excited!! Something mom and I had done together was blooming, and I didn't have to keep the secret anymore!! So fun!! Mom and I went to lunch together all the time on my breaks, shopping, movies... we saw "Cool Runnings" together in the theater. I felt so special.
So that all being said, I know the advantages to being a stay-at-home mom--from a kid's perspective, anyway. But as John and I start trying to have a family, and I've just accepted my dream job (more on that to come...) I'm hesitant to make that decision right now. Who's to say that when Junior pops his/her head out, that I won't eat up every minute of those 12 weeks off, but decide to continue working? I know there are advantages to kids being in day care too (if the day care is right, that is). I mean, kids can be more social, learn more in that kind of environment, develop leadership skills, etc. I know, they can also pick up other kids' bad habit and sicknesses, but still. Weigh the pros and cons and figure out what's best for you and your family... that's what we'll do. But then, I could also see that sweet little face, tiny little fingers and toes, hear that cooing and decide to never pick up that briefcase again.
God only knows.... really.
3 comments:
I hear ya. I'm just slightly ahead of you... I'll be more than happy to talk to you in the future as you 'process' through this. :-)
Wow! This post really took me by surprise. Not long ago, you told me that *I* had your dream job! I wonder what has caused this big change in your heart?
And I disagree with there being ANY advantages to kids being in day care. I'd be eager to find out what makes you think that.
I do think you're right that you can't make the decision now, and that one look into the eyes of your baby could definitely change any of your plans. We'll see!
Hmm, tough comments Ang! But yeah, we'll see what God has planned... We'll need to wait and see what is best for our family when the time comes. I definitely can't wait to be a mommy (aka your "job") but keep in mind too that I also wasn't too keen on my own current job at the time. I LOVE my job and company now, and if we still need my income, then that may be the answer. Who knows, who knows.
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